You may think that “am crazy enough to say that” those who are pious about religion, they should even get mad at this. Whatever religion you believe in including Christianity, Buda, Islam whatever, do not dare to get married. Do not dare I repeat that!
Let us see what Bible says about the beauty of marriage
Be devoted to one another in love. Honour one another above yourselves.” “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord” there are sweety words from the Christian Bible
“Be devoted to one another in love. Honour one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. Matthew 19:6
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:2-3
“And now these three remain faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13:13
These words are super sweet, and unique! Aren’t they? If you read whole verses you will immediately wish to have a marriage early. Some girls started to imagine their wedding ceremony at 15 ages, boys never care, I think, they are always busy getting healthy and wealthy.
One day I was watching a Romantic movie (…), and at the scene of the couple wowing with each other, I got a lot of emotions, the bridegroom was like “I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you” the couple got emotion and cried, the tears appeared from my eyes too.
If you attended a wedding or watched a romantic movie, I guess you had experienced that emotion.
Many people define marriage as “Being happy for good” it is fascinating, isn’t it? …. Everyone needs to be happy right?
The fact that many people define marriage as being happy forever doesn’t mean that it always be like that, sometimes it is the worst thing that is going to happen in your entire life and you are going to be an unhappy human being.
You heard the news in the community you are living in that a thousand husbands murdered their wives, and wives killed their husbands, men are cheating on their women, fighting, disrespectful, insulting, arguments and so on…That was the scary news, right? These stories disappointed you, annoyed you, embarrassed you, hurt you, scared you and traumatized you. That’s too bad to see and hear.
Do you want to be murdered too, cheated, beaten, disrespected, insulted and humiliated, mortified, demeaned, tortured and beheaded? Is that your dream? Is that your wish? Is that what you are looking for in your entire life?; is that what you were praying for on a daily basis? Is that happiness you were looking for? Do you want your life to end up like that? Being killed by the love of your life? I think you don’t, don’t you?
Now, we are on the same nose, you don’t need to be a bad person like that, and you don’t have to kill your beloved one. You may think that it will not happen to you but there is a high chance if you don’t pay attention to the decision you are going to make. Change your mind before making a tremendous mistake.
Here are the facts that you should not get married
Never get married because you are not happy and you need someone to make you happy or you need to make someone happy too
Marriage is a thing, it is a huge decision you make in your life, you marry someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, it is the last tough decision you are going to make that will affect your entire life, you are going to start a new chapter of your life, you are going to parent, having kids. Don’t you think it is a heavy responsibility?
Marriage is not a game or bet. You are not going to be like “let me try and see, let me do it right now and see what is going on, let me take this new challenge and let me try this and see whether it will work or not, let me do experience this and if I found it not my things I will quit, it will work itself, I believe it not about that at all. Kindly if you are still having a double quit it and maybe give it time.
Do not get married because you are a boy and girl, do not get married because of your culture, do not get married because you are Christian and the Bible says about it, do not get married because you like it, do not get married because your parents did it, do not get married because you have watched a romantic movie or you attended a nice wedding last month.
You should not get married because your friends, classmates, siblings, and workmates did and they are happy marriages. You should not get married because you want to have kids; there are massive ways you can get them without getting married.
You should not get married because you are of having certain age, education, and income. Some people think that marriage is a responsibility or a must for everyone. What if you don’t like it, what if is it not your thing? Marriage is not a job; you think you are qualified and the best candidate.
How do you know that you are ready to get married?
It sounds frightening, However, I just need you to think, consider and care about it, give it time, challenge yourself and think out of the box, and then figure out whether you are in or out for clear understandable reasons, if you are not ready, that is what I was talking about, don’t dare to it, otherwise, you are in trouble.
When I think about getting married a feel alit bit nervous, if you realize that you are not yet committed and not ready to take on those responsibilities, don’t endanger yourself and someone also. Better use the third type of Commitment “I will do whatever it takes “Try to figure out that Marriage is your passion/vocation. Don to see a healthy marriage of your siblings/friends/family and think that it will be the same, people are different. Read again what the Bible talks about Marriage!
Don’t see even unhealthy marriage and push yourself back, look at yourself, take a breath, ask a piece of advice, approach your mentor, just pray, refresh your mind and come up with the right decision. Don’t be too egoist, if you feel like you are still doubting kindly don’t do it because you are putting an innocent man/woman in trouble.
There are many factors that contribute to a satisfying marriage/relationship such as; Love, Commitment, Trust, Time, Attention, and Good Communication including Listening, Partnership, Tolerance, Patience, Openness, Honesty, Respect, Sharing, Consideration, Generosity, Willingness/Ability to Compromise, Constructive.
The fact that you have all these above doesn’t mean that you are a good candidate for getting married. Never dare to do it. Still, you have to think twice.
